8 Easy confidence boosting tips to try today
Hey, we know it's not easy to feel confident. Sometimes the easier option is to let all that self-doubt and negativity eat away at you until you feel anxious and depressed. It can be difficult getting out of a self-esteem rut if you're used to beating yourself up for your mistakes; learning to love yourself and feel comfortable in you own skin takes time and energy. But we're here to help. We believe that health, fitness and happiness starts from within - if you're not happy being you, it's time to make some changes. So pack up your self-pity and self-doubt and prepare to start a revolution with these 8 confidence-boosting tips; they could change a little, or a lot, about your day - just try them!
Smiling is a quick, easy way to boost your mood, and when you smile at others, it makes them smile too - win all round! In fact, science shows that smiling can help reduce feelings of stress (1) and it definitely makes you feel good. Even if you don't feel like smiling, just give it a try. We automatically view smiling people as more composed, happy and confident.
#2. Stop slouching
We're all guilty of poor posture from time to time, but if you spend your days skulking along with your head down, you need to quit it! Slouching is not only bad for your neck and back, leading to long term problems, it can also affect your mood. Research shows that sitting upright can boost your mood, and your self-esteem(2). So that's one more reason to sit properly at your desk!
#3. Tune in
Next time you feel your confidence start to waiver, get your iPod out and listen to some of your favourite tracks; music is a great mood booster. Did you know that the right music could actually help you to feel more powerful and in control (3)? Pick your playlists carefully - songs with plenty of bass can really make you feel more confident. Don't believe us? Give it a try!
#4. Embrace your superstitions
Cross the road whenever you see a black cat? Always wear your 'lucky' bracelet when you have an important meeting or presentation at work? There's nothing wrong with being superstitious; in fact, some scientist believe that being superstitious could improve performance and allow individuals to set themselves more challenging goals (4). We're not suggesting you should take this to the extreme, but there's nothing wrong with believing in something - regular rituals, such as listening to your favourite track before you run a marathon, can decrease your feelings of anxiety and increase your confidence too!
#5. Flirt a little
Men (and women) view female flirtation as confidence - if you were a shy person, you'd be less likely to flirt with strangers. We're not suggesting you do this every day, but a little flirtation next time you're at the pub, out with friends or even shopping at your local market not only makes you feel good, it also makes the other person feel good too! A word of warning though, we don't recommend trying this if you already have a partner - or if they're with you at the time!
#6. Take risks
Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is definitely scary. But did you know it's one of the best ways to boost your confidence? Once you know you can achieve something which scares you, you'll not only feel better about it next time, but you'll be more likely to push yourself out of your rut again and again. Trying new things is good as it expands your comfort zone - only you can control how big or how small it is. Doing something small every day will lead to bigger things, leaving you feeling more powerful and in control of your life, increasing your confidence and your self-belief. Try chatting to strangers on your morning commute, striking up a conversation with the man at the corner shop, signing up for a new fitness class or booking a holiday somewhere new.
#7. Stay active
Exercise is not only great for your body, it's good for your mind too! Researchers have discovered that regular exercise can reduce stress levels, leading to a better work/life balance (5) and increasing feelings of confidence. Plus the more you workout, the better you will feel (thanks, endorphins!) and look - which means even more self-confidence! It doesn't matter whether you hit the gym for a sweaty 60-minute session, go for a run, take a dance class or practise yoga; what matters is that you do it regularly and stay active. Your body and mind will thank you for it!
#8. Say 'F*** it!'
We're all guilty of worrying too much about what others think of us. Most of the time, other people are too busy worrying about themselves to pay you any attention, so next time you feel stressed or anxious, say 'F*** it!' (we recommend you do it in your head, rather than out loud, unless you're alone!) Letting go of worries about what others think of you can help boost your self-confidence. Think about all the things you have achieved in your life - even if they are just small things like getting a job you enjoy, moving into a new flat or making friends in a new city. You're awesome, and letting go of caring about what others think of you will allow you to love yourself and feel more confident and happy.
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