Remember this when you're feeling rubbish about life
When life feels simple and light, it’s easy to take it for granted. When you’re laughing more often than you’re crying and things just seem to flow, your blessings are clearly there, but do you actually count them? And conversely, when life feels dark and heavy and you’re wading through metaphorical mud, where do you focus your attention? We’re betting it’s on the hard stuff.
When things feel heavy, life demands a lot of energy and it can be difficult to see any kind of lightness. It can feel like we’re out here on our own, just trying to get by. We all have down days and tough times, and asking for help is nothing to be ashamed of. But if you’re struggling to do that, we want you to know that it’s OK, and you’ve got this.
Without wanting to sound patronising (since that’s the last thing anyone ever needs), there’s nothing wrong with you. Whatever you’re feeling right now and whatever might’ve made you feel this way isn’t a personal reflection on you. Life is never easy for anyone, despite what Instagram may lead you to believe. We only ever see other people’s highlight reels. Their behind-the-scenes are likely just as uncertain as yours – plagued by despair and dirty dishes. Take whatever gets posted on social media with a ton of salt.
Without wanting to put undue pressure on you, there’s no one who can make you feel more like you’re enough than you. There’s no one who knows you better than you do. There’s no one who can comfort you better than you can comfort yourself. It’s hard, but it’s also empowering. You get to decide who you are and how much space you take up in this world.
You have nothing to prove, though. Nothing to prove to anyone. However you wish to show up is OK. So let it be OK.
If you’re struggling to feel better, get outside. Move your body. Text a friend. Text your mum. Read a book you’ve had your eye on for a while. Use the library. Stop by your local coffee shop. Stretch. Walk round the market. Have a nap. Sleep in. Make a list, no matter how long or short, of all the things that help you and all the things you know you should avoid. If you know caffeine makes you more agitated, lay off the espressos for a while. If you know you need 8 hours’ sleep to feel good about yourself, schedule an early night and a luxurious lie-in. If you know Instagram makes the monster of comparison rear its ugly head, log off and put your phone away. Give yourself a social media break. Do whatever you need to do.
There’s a famous saying that goes like this: Everything will be OK in the end. If it’s not OK, it’s not the end. It can be hard to place your faith in clichés, but trust us on this one. Things really do get much better.