Am I masturbating too much?

Choking the chicken, spanking the monkey, flicking the bean, wanking, jerking off - all commonly used terms for something that, let's face it, all of us do; we just don't like to talk about it. But masturbating is an entirely normal and healthy part of your sexuality, as long as you're in control of your habit. Getting turned on, having an erection, orgasming - these are all healthy, positive things, and engaging in them on a daily basis could actually help to ensure that everything is 'running smoothly' down there, increasing blood flow to your sexual organs and keeping nerves firing. Whether you masturbate a few times a day, a couple of times a week or less frequently, as long as you're not hurting yourself (physically or mentally), your relationship or your productivity, we say rock on!

Everything in moderation

Having said that, there is such a thing as masturbating 'too much' - but contrary to what you might think, it's actually quite difficult to reach the point where you're engaging in too much masturbation. Of course, there are the obvious physical signs such as chafing, irritation and pain, meaning it's time to lay off a bit - but you already knew that.

Are you too good at masturbation?

There's also a chance that masturbating too often could mean you get 'too good' and find you can only orgasm in that one specific way. Adding sex toys such as vibrators to the mix can sometimes make it more difficult for women to come with manual or oral stimulation, or penetrative sex with a partner - that's because you're often lacking the direct clitoral stimulation a vibe provides (1).

In fact, this can affect both men and women - using a lot of friction or force on your genitals or relying on sex toys or visual stimulation such as porn every time you masturbate can mean your body gets used to only orgasming in this way. It's much the same as the way our bodies get used to a specific workout and you stop seeing the results you crave. This could make it harder to orgasm manually alone or during intercourse or foreplay with your partner. There's even a term - idiosyncratic masturbatory style, which describes this problem. It could lead to problems orgasming for women, or delayed ejaculation for men. Don't worry though, it's not irreversible! You can 'retrain' your body to orgasm with different stimulation - for example try slowing down, shifting your position whilst masturbating or using more lube to reduce friction.

Not tonight, darling

Men, listen up - masturbating too often could delay your erections, which isn't a massive deal if you're not about to have sex. For younger men, this isn't usually a problem, as the refractory period (the time it takes you to get hard again after an orgasm) if shorter. But as you get older, this period gets longer, and is linked to your overall health and fitness. For those of you who take a while to get it up again after you come, it's polite to avoid masturbating shortly before sex with your partner - manners! Women, good news - we don't have a refractory period, so masturbating before sex could actually be beneficial, helping prepare your body for sex and increasing arousal - win win!

Masturbating the day away

A key indicator that you're engaging in too much solo play is if your masturbation habits are affecting your sex life, relationship or daily functioning. Cancelling appointments to stay in bed and masturbate, avoiding work or responsibilities or shunning your to-do list in favour of just one more orgasm could signal a problem.

The skinny

Because we all have different schedules and some of us can find the time to masturbate three times a day and still fit in a job and relationship, the concept of masturbating 'too much' really does vary from person to person. But if you're neglecting your responsibilities, or choosing masturbation over sex with your partner, it could be indicative of a problem, particularly if you're watching porn or using sex toys and find it hard to stop. If that's the case, it might be time to talk to a friend, your partner or even a sex therapist.


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Works cited:

  1. http://bettyconfidential.com/ar/ld/a/vibrators-too-much-of-a-good-thing.html

Author By Paula Beaton
Date On 7th Jan 2016 at 09:14
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